single vs married

Mood : inspired

Assalamualaikum & hello!

I just remembered I promised to blog about this topic to a blog reader of mine about a year ago, after I ended my "singlehood". I never actually got to the posting part so here I am sharing my 25 years of singlehood vs my 20 months of married life. :D if you are married, you might relate to some of the changes but again, it's just me sharing from my experience.. hehe

1. Time Management

When I was single, I didn't really have to plan my time, especially my daily time and I can do anything I wanted.. if I wanted to hang out with my friends after class, I'd just go and hang out with them without having to report to anyone.. I can follow my own time without having to think or work my schedule around someone else's and compromising what I wanted to do..

but once I became a Mrs, I had to compromise and plan my time and schedule so I can match my husbands.. if he plans to do something next week, I would need to include or change my initial plan to match his.. if we had 2 wedding invitations from our friends, we'd have to plan to go to which ones first and so on and so forth.. if I wanted to do something, I'd have to get his consent and if I'm lucky, he'd let me go alone..

2. Reporting

When I was single, I didn't have to report my whereabouts to anyone.. I come and go as I please and no one had to worry who I was with and where I was (coz I'd be in UUM, kecik ja pun.. LOL) I can hang out with whoever I wanted whenever I wanted,  well, except if I go out at night, I would inform my mum before I leave home..

Once I married, I had to ask for my husband's permission before I go out.. I can't just leave home without my husband knowing where I'm going and who I'd be with.. I have to let him know my daily whereabouts, except from 9am to 6pm on weekdays, since he knows I'll be at work.. I have to report my whereabouts and inform him when I leave point A and arrive at point B.. I don't blame him for worrying, I worry a lot about him too, especially when he's out riding his motorbike.. 

3. Cooking & Cleaning

Being single means I rarely (almost never) cook at home.. like seriously.. when I was studying, I didn't stay in hostel, I stayed at home with my mum since we lived on campus.. it's just more convenient for me, plus I had my Hot Red (my kancil car which is red in colour, hence the name) which made it easy for me to commute to class.. I would eat breakfast & lunch at the cafe and when I came home, mum would have cooked up something for dinner.. as for the cleaning, I sometimes help to sweep the floor, arrange stuff and made sure the house doesn't look too messy, take out the garbage when it's too smelly, stuff like that.. I would clean, I think 1 or 2 times a week.. hahaha

Once I married, I am in charge of the whole house! OMG, it means the cleaning of ever nook and cranny of every room, throw out garbage, do the dishes, do the laundry, EVERYTHING.. hubby helps out once in a blue moon, but he does all the heavy lifting and assembly of our IKEA furniture, putting up the blinds in the wet kitchen, bring up the groceries (we live on the 5th floor without elevators/lifts) so I think it's an okay deal.. but of course I would love to get more help tho..

4. Driving

Being single and owning a car (it's my mum's but I drove it so it's mine la, kan?) I drove myself everywhere.. to class, to meetings, to shopping, to dining, to everywhere lah.. even if I went out with my mum, I'd be driving instead of her.. oh did I mention I am a 'gila steering' person?

Once married, my husband drives me everywhere.. if we planned to go to Sunway Pyramid, he'd be the driver, if we planned to go to my friends wedding in Kuantan, he'd be the driver, if we wanted to go buy groceries, he'd be the driver.. the only exception for me to drive is when I commute to work and when he's not feeling well, other than that, he'd be the person behind the steering wheel.. I have no complaints on this arrangement.. :D

5. Buying Clothing

When I was single, if I liked something I see and it fits just nice and flatters my body, I'd buy it in a heartbeat.. as long as it didn't hurt my wallet too much la.. I didn't have to consult with anyone, I mean it's my money after all, right? so I can spend it on anything I wanted.. ;)

Being married to my husband means he has the rights to agree or disagree with the clothing choices I make.. I admit, even though I am a Muslim, I don't previously dress like a good Muslim.. I loved to show my curves and didn't cover my aurah properly.. but now since hubby would be getting my 'saham dosa' he definitely gets a say when I choose my dress or blouse.. if I like a design, I'd ask for his opinion.. now if I go shopping, he'll have to come with me so I don't buy things he won't allow me to wear later.. clever eh? 

6. Spending Money

I was lucky enough to receive education fund from Yayasan Bank Rakyat so each semester I have about RM4k+- to spend after deduction for university fee payment.. I never actually cared to save, all I did was spend spend spend.. the first time I got the backdated payment for the previous 3 semesters, I had almost 9k in my bank account, to which I freaked out with excitement and I bought myself a RM2k phone and a RM700 phone for a friend.. and the money kept drizzling out till the end of the semester, I was left with RM300.. I have no idea where the money went but I couldn't care less.. hahaha, so bad, Najmi!

you would always think that the shared money from a marriage would be managed by the wife, but not in my case.. haha.. my husband is the best money manager I know.. the first 3 months of our marriage was not easy, we had to save a lot, going to work by motorcycle, eating at home, not buying anything we don't need, stuff like that.. my husband helps to make sure we don't overspend on anything and to save as much as we can from our salary so that we can have a better life in the future.. frankly I am thankful he is the opposite of me.. hahaha..

but all in all, I am happy being married to my husband, my best friend.. despite the arguments we have sometimes, I would always find things about him that makes me love him more and more.. it's safe to say that I fall in love with him everyday.. the only thing on my daily to-do list is to make him happy and I hope I have delivered it.. if not, then I guess I'll have to work harder, in sya Allah.. :) 

my advise to those who aren't married yet, don't rush it.. don't rush to get married just because you're jealous of your friends, just because you're pressured by your family, just because you want a child.. the one thing you don't want is to marry the wrong person, to spend the rest of your life with the person who you can live without, who doesn't make you feel special.. it's not wrong to marry late, just remember to marry the person you can't live without because your marriage is a responsibility, not a joy ride.. there will always be some ups and downs, but who your spouse is can make you enjoy or regret the ride.. all in all, I wish you all the best in finding your soul mate, cause you deserve great things in life.. :)

the ups and sometimes down

Mood : Blessed

When you enter the marriage portion of your life, devoting yourself to your significant other is your lifetime goal.. you work hard to please your husband/wife day and night, and honestly sometimes you have a bad day or two where you slip up more than you usually do.. for me, that day was yesterday.. it was my fault for being clumsy.. I'll spare you the details, but waterworks happened.. 

I honestly thought it was the end of my married life, that he was going to leave me coz I irritate him and stuff, that he regretted being my husband.. and just when I was ready to let him go to ease his burden, he comes and gives me a big bear hug, shus-shing my crying and listening to me ramble on and on about how sorry I was and stuff.. I told him that I thought he regretted marrying me and he said,"when did I say that? don't put words in my mouth, I never said that and you know it.." well, you know how women tend to exaggerate things, that's what I interpreted from his words.. in the end, we worked everything out.. I apologized, he apologized and we talked about it.. the thing is, I am clumsy and sometimes I am downright outrageously clumsy and a danger to myself.. that's where he gets mad coz he gets worried about me.. he assured me again that he's not going anywhere and that I should be more careful in what I do.. we still love each other very much, don't worry about that.. :) 

the point of this post is, WOMEN tend to exaggerate things, making a mountain out of a mole hill, so to say.. just because you're married, this trait is no exception to you.. and also, marriage has its ups and downs, the important thing is to talk to each other.. it's fine to cry sometimes, it's a human trait after all.. besides, what doesn't break you makes your relationship stronger.. it's okay to argue once or twice, just make sure to make up once you're done! ;)

nak sihat sekarang atau sihat nanti?

Assalamualaikum w.b.t dan Salam Extravaganza! 

Pernah tak korang alami situasi macam kat bawah nih?

A: "laa, kau tak nak makan ke kek coklat moist aku buat nih?"

B : "tak nak lah, manis.."

A: "ala, sikit ja nih, tak payah la nak diet2 sangat weih.. baik kau makan je apa kau nak masa muda2 nih, nanti dah tua kau dah tak boleh rasa nikmat makan sebab banyak penyakit.. makan ja, kita muda lagi.."

umur 25 tahun dah disahkan kencing manis.. umur baru 25 tahun dah ada masalah darah tinggi.. umur 25 tahun dah obese.. salah siapa? sila tunding jari kat diri sendiri.. we control what we put in our mouth..

 

that's why you need Herbalife.. dugaan makanan tak sihat sangat tinggi sebab sedap, betul? that's why anda patut tukar makanan biasa anda yang tinggi kalori, tinggi lemak, tinggi gula, tinggi karbohidrat dengan Herbalife Formula 1 makanan nutrisi untuk badan anda.. dah la sedap, tinggi vitamin dan mineral yang cukup untuk badan macam makan 7 warna sayur n 7 warna buah, dan kandungan kalori yang sangat rendah membolehkan anda kurus dengan pengambilan yang konsisten.. bukan takat kurus, tapi sihat.. 

no, Herbalife bukan ubat kurus.. no, Herbalife bukan supplement ajaib.. no, Herbalife bukan baseless miracle product, our nutritionist board banyak buat kajian untuk menghasilkan product yang over the top punya kualiti.. Herbalife is good nutritious food for your body.. secara logiknya, bila kita makan makanan berkhasiat, kita akan sihat, betul kan? bila kecik2 dulu mak ayah kita mesti ingatkan kita untuk makan sayur sampai abes, betul kan? kenapa? sebab sayur makanan sihat and that is what Herbalife is, MAKANAN SIHAT.. sebab tu core products Herbalife tak dak dosage, sebab dia makanan, bukan supplement.. kalau supplement memang tak boleh ambil lebih dari arahan makanan dia contohnya 3 kapsul satu hari (yes Herbalife ada jugak supplements but we are talking about CORE product ye sekarang nih, jangan keliru okeh?) the more you take the core products (formula 1 nutritious shake, aloe concentrate, tea mix, formula 3 whey protein) the better and faster your results will be.. kenapa? sebab dia MAKANAN SIHAT untuk tubuh badan anda, high vitamins, high minerals, LOW CALORIES.. semakin banyak makanan sihat masuk tubuh badan, anda akan semakin sihat dan bertenaga, simple kan konsep dia? ;)

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let your imagination roam!

Assalamualaikum w.b.t., salam Extravaganza!

I..... have no idea what to blog about.. hahaha.. I'm guessing this is one of my random thoughts jumbled up in writing.. hmmmm.. what to write about? I think I have promised more that 1 topic to someone somewhere.. I've got so many things to share but I'm guessing my mood doesn't cater to any particular topic, so hence I'm just letting my imagination and fingers do the typing.. hmmm.. maybe if I categorize possible topics, it'd be easier? okay let's try! :D 

Herbalife Life

well, I'm currently working to achieve Supervisor level.. I have recently qualify as Qualified Producer level last month, itu pun almost tak jadi.. haha.. but Alhamdulillah, Allah bantu and I made it.. people wonder how I'm actually able to juggle my full time work at Enactus Malaysia Foundation and my part time work as Independent Herbalife Distributor and I guess the easy explanation I have is only 1; PASSION.. if you have passion, you'll make it work.. and people see and feel your passion.. since I'm working full time, I don't have time to go out to shopping malls and do walk and talk or open up a booth and weight people all day.. my customers are people who know me, trust me and they contact me via Facebook or Whatsapp.. I rarely have strangers as customers coz I don't have time to go find them but I am still able to get and service my customers just fine, even though I'm only part time.. 

honestly, I love talking to my customers and listen to their testimony, coz everyone is different.. some can feel the effect of the products after the first shake but others might take longer than that.. some don't think they feel any different but turns out they can now fit into that 30 inch jeans they couldn't wear since 4 months ago.. so yeah, I guess I'm happy with what I do on my part time basis coz I get to make a difference in someone's life, alhamdulillah.. :)

Full Time Job

Being Program Executive in a small foundation with only 6 full time employees can be a real challenge sometimes, I kid you not.. with this 2 hands I am able to be a super hero.. okay, itu hyperbola but it's not that far from the truth.. in my case, I have to manage 36 Enactus teams and sometimes communication can be an issue.. God knows how I would love to know about their projects, give ideas and just chill and hang out with the students but I can't really do that much coz I have to take care of 36 of them and each have their own sets of problems and challenges.. tak puas hati among their own teammates pun ada but I don't meddle into internal issues of teams.. hal universiti, perebutan kuasa and stuff like that, EMF tak campur.. my goodness, to compile data can also be a challenge! okay, I can't say much, private and confidential.. hehehe.. 

Enactus World Cup, Cancun Mexico

bahahahaha, dah basi dah topik nih, October tahun lepas kot.. first thing first, the 30 hour flight was awesomely tiring! awesome coz I get to watch a ton of movies on flight and tiring coz I had to sit for more than 13 hours in 1 flight.. gila!.. I smell like sour cabbage when I touched down.. hahaha.. but it was great to be able to see Dubai, America and Mexico, and to get stamps in my passport.. seronok dowh.. Mexico was great! the whether was nice, almost the same as Malaysia, sunny and dry a bit, probably coz we were at a resort next to the sea.. I ate a whole bunch, mostly nachos and potatoes and stuff hence the additional 3kg once I got back to Malaysia.. hahaha.. but it was really nice to see the Enactus World Cup up front.. I only previously attended EWC when Malaysia hosted in 2011 and was blew away with the experience.. hoping I can go to EWC this year in Beijing China too.. hehe


Weight Loss Journey

I've been consuming Herbalife for 4 months this coming end Feb and I've lost 6.5kg in 3 months.. it's not much to some but if I were to just sit around and do nothing, my 69.5kg would have been 75kg easily.. hey, FOOD IS MY WEAKNESS! the best part for me when I lost weight was how light my body was.. I mean, living on the 4th floor with no elevator is definitely a challenge if you're heavy.. so now I'm working my way to lose more of my weight, wanna be 57kg! hehehehe.. but I guess, my health is a lot more important than that piece of cake or that cheese pizza.. ;)

Future Baby

No no, I'm not getting any yet, but one can hope.. :)

Next Milestone

I wanna be Supervisor by March.. 3k+ vp now.. anyone want to buddy up with me? hew3~ 

EMNC

This year WILL BE EPIC! I want to try and achieve EWC atmosphere in this year's EMNC.. it's tough really, but I can plan and do my best.. :) seriously, honestly, I want it to be EPIC!

okay, dah.. jom tidooooo~ 

moving forward in life

Assalamualaikum w.b.t. dan salam Extravaganza!

hehe, for those who don't know, I am now an Independent Herbalife Distributor and been consuming Herbalife for 3 months now.. macam kelakar pulak bila pikir, 3 tahun lepas ada orang approach aku with Herbalife, nak timbang berat, free je.. masa tu fikir, well, timbang free kot, might as well la kan? orang Malaysia memang suka benda free pun so I gave it a chance.. naik penimbang and I found out 6 things about my body.. paling ketara for me at that time, was my body age.. I was 21 years old but my body age was 28 years old.. I thought, ok la kan, tak tua mana pun.. hehe.. rasanya my fat percentage pun tinggi time tu tapi aku tak ingat plak brapa tapi orang yang promote Herbalife citer la kat aku keburukan lemak dalam badan nih.. 1kg fat lebih teruk dari 1kg muscle and blablabla lain yang aku tak ambek pot.. haha.. dia citer pasal Herbalife products kat aku but I thought, hey, aku baru 21 tahun kot, boleh ja kurus dengan exercise.. so aku tolak orang tu, aku cakap takpa la, I don't need this product..

bolat bolat dan bolat..

masa aku timbang dengan orang tu, I was 62KG, tinggi 163cm.. BMI memang normal kiranya ideal weight dah walaupun kat hujung sikit lagi nak overweight, tapi badan besarrr, area perut paling takbleh blah.. haha.. taknak terima hakikat and I wanted to change.. how? exercise and Atkins Diet.. ceritanya my mum went for a routine check-up at UUM's clinic and the doctor said that her cholesterol and blood pressure level was rising and the only way to reduce it is to lose weight.. hence the Doc recommended the Atkins Diet, 2 weeks of protein intake and exercise.. as support to my mum (and sebab diri sendiri nak kurus jugak hewhewhew) I joined her in her mission to lose weight..  

memang gila2, tiap petang lepas kelas pegi jogging and gym, one of the perks of being a student sebab semua facilities kat universiti semua dah lengkap, tinggal you nak guna atau tak ja.. hehe.. so pegi la stadium comel UUM tu, jogging kat track pastu lepas 1 jam masuk gym plak then kluar jogging track lagi sekali.. nampak tak dedikasi aku kat situ? hahaha.. makan pun semua eat clean, carbs is a NO NO.. langsung tak makan nasi, either ayam atau ikan sahaja yang rebus, stim atau bakar, minum air seriously banyak sangat2 sebab selalu dahaga ja, protein kan? after 2 weeks of Atkins diet, baru la start makan nasi balik sebab badan kita masih perlukan carbohidrat jugak ye kawan2.. hehe

so 2 months of the exercise & diet, I lost weight, from 62kg to 57kg.. kau tak payah cakap la pasal shaping bagai, aku penah merasa semua tu.. aku kurus, aku slim, aku cantik siap penah model jugak kadang2 bila free.. haaa, prasan sampai macamtu la.. haha.. my peak health was when I was 57kg.. sihat dan langsing perut flat, that was me and I achieved that before this with dedication and commitment through exercise & control what I ate.. so kenapa aku nak makan Herbalife pulak kan?

hasil exercise & Atkins Diet, smart kan? haha

selit jap gambar model.. hahaha

sebab lepas aku berangkat keluar (cewah) dari kehidupan universiti dan pegi ke Kuala Lumpur untuk latihan industri (read Internship) aku dah takdak masa untuk exercise dan jaga makan.. pukul 7 pagi dah keluar rumah pukul 8 malam baru sampai umah, kadang2 tak breakfast langsung tekejar-kejar naik LRT pegi office sebab takut lambat and kena denda.. hidup yang stressful jadi makanan adalah kryptonite aku, kelemahan aku la.. snacking macam2, craving macam2 so berat badan pun naik balik 61kg.. tapi time nih aku dah tunang dah dengan my best friend so aku memang nak kurus for my wedding day.. nak kurus tanpa perlu penat lelah berpeluh macam sebelum nih so aku ambek macam2 ubat kurus.. masa nih jugak kulit muka aku jadi teruk, macam alergik or something, terukkkk sangat.. malu gila, time tu low esteem sangat2 pakai make up nalaa tebal..

I have tried almost 5 different weight loss pills and drinks yang masing2 claim boleh lose 5-8kg a month dengan "selamat", "tanpa perlu berlapar", "tanpa perlu bersenam".. hoii, sapa tak tertarik kan? so aku beli la semua produk2 nih, nak cuba.. semua produk aku ambek tak lebih 2 bulan.. kenapa? sebab aku tak suka side effect dia.. ada satu ubat tu aku guna, yes, memang aku lose 4kg a month tapi ya Allah, tiap2 hari aku cirit keluar darah.. sakit weih.. makan tu selalu sakit kepala and no energy, tak ada nafsu nak makan langsung so I only drink water.. I was depressed.. tak sanggup aku continue ambek produk tu, biarlah gemuk balik naik 4kg tu balik pun, aku tak sanggup mati sebab produk murah macam tu.. sekali betul keluar paper, ubat tu ada sejenis chemical dalam dia yang bila masuk badan akan jadi racun, so aku terus taknak beli dah.. takut weih! another produk aku cuba, nih kena minum pulak.. 1 hari 1 sachet.. yekkk, rasa dia memang seriously tak boleh belahhhh! macam kau minum rumput, kalau aku nak minum aku picit hidung tahan nafas sebab taknak bau.. pikir nak kurus nak kurus lawan lawan lawan dari muntah.. yes I lost 4kg again but I was not happy.. tak sedap kot so I stop consuming it.. why take something that I don't like and enjoy?

nampak tak kebulatan aku? haha

In the end aku kawen dengan berat badan 61kg dan pakai baju nikah & kawen yang hampir2 tak muat sebab mokmok besar ketepi.. hehe.. sebelum kawen tu buat deal dengan hubby, "kalau awak nampak saya dah gemuk aku tegur tau, push saya suruh exercise.. saya taknak gemuk.." tapi lepas kawen, bila dia tegur, aku merajuk mencebik kalah baby tak dapat ais krim.. hahaha.. pompuan mana suka bila orang cakap dia gemuk kan? :D so my husband dah tak tegur dah, malas nak layan isteri merajuk.. so kami sama2 mengembang bersama, aku dari 61kg awal perkahwinan dan 8 bulan kemudian 69.5kg, THE HEAVIEST I have ever been in my life! gila camana tak gemuk weih, lepas kerja pukul 9 baru nak masak, pukul 10 mlm baru nak makan nasi goreng, spegeti la, megi goreng la, nugget & fries la, burger la, camana tak gemuk? hahaha.. bahagia terlebih.. :P

I finally have had it because after my trip to Cancun, Mexico in October 2013, I gained 3 kilo in 7 days, giloss! aku dah tak larat gemuk, susah gerak, baju semua sendat macam nangka busuk, seluar jeans dah tak muat dah, muka dah bulat, semput bila panjat tangga, malas nak gerak n senang nak marah orang.. hahaha, ambek kau, semua list before aku.. :D so aku contact la member satu sekolah aku dulu yang aku tau buat Herbalife nih.. kenapa aku choose nak cuba Herbalife pulak?

haaa, sebabnya aku tengok kawan aku la nih.. dia dah guna produk hampir setahun dah time tu and aku selalu follow FB dia, tengok update2 dia.. dia selalu pegi event, jumpa orang, always positive and I saw from her that the product works.. so aku pikir, at least try Herbalife nih walaupun pada zahirnya aku rasa Herbalife is overrated.. haha.. honestly aku penah cakap kat orang dulu, Herbalife nih mahal ja lebih, entah2 tak berkesan pun.. but 3 months of using the products and getting the awesome results for myself, Herbalife is soooo affordable and so beneficial!

I lost 6.5kg in 2 months, improved my skin problem, improve my stamina, I am more energetic, my knee problem has vanished, bonus I have reshaped a whole lot better in as little as 3 months.. hehe.. awesome ka awesome? :D

this is me now, the far right pic.. aku tak penah tahu dagu aku leh runcing macam nih... hehe

my skin improvement..

kenapa aku cakap Herbalife nih affordable gila? sebabnya, bila kita consume the products we don't have to think about going out to eat anything else.. I mean, sebelum nih breakfast aku makan nasi lemak 1 bungkus n teh tarik atau teh o ais limau which is about RM4.. tu pun tak kenyang, ambek lagi 3 ketul kuih, 1 ketul 50 sen so for breakfast dah spend RM5.50 tapi tak kenyang lama pun.. 2 jam lepas tu dah lapar n nak kunyahhhh ja rasanya.. but with Herbalife, you replace your usual meal tu with the nutritious shake that has 55 vitamin & minerals, all the fibre, protein and is only 90-250 calories.. kalau nasi lemak sebelum nih easily 700 calories tau.. and and and and the best part is, 1 glass of shake is only RM5.70 and kenyang dia tahan 3-4 jam! mahal 20sen from previous breakfast aku tapi ini tak menggemukkan, sihat, dan ya Allah, sedappp sangat! aku tak tau camana nak cakap, shake nih sedap sangat2 sampai aku rasa macam nak shake ja selalu taknak makan nasi, boleh? hahaha.. kau suka perisa apa, ada 5 perisa sedap sedap belaka.. dutch chocolate, strawberry, tropical fruit, french vanilla and cappuccino.. kalau takdak blender n campak masuk shaker cup n air kosong pun still sedappp.. hehe..

a big special thanks to my sponsor for being an awesome coach, my ex schoolmate, Sarah for teaching me the proper way to eat the products.. selalu follow up, selalu layan semua soalan aku baik soalan pandai atau soalan bodoh, selalu ajak aku pegi events walaupun aku asyik tolak ja tapi last2 pegi and terus interested to do business, push me to qualify for Spectacular event early this month.. haha.. kelakar ja pikir balik, from a skeptical person to a fanatic.. alhamdulillah, Allah bukak hati aku untuk cuba produk best nih.. :)

thanks my dear coach! ^_^

so what about you? do you have the same problems like I did? or maybe skin problems like Sarah? it is NEVER too late to consume Herbalife, don't delay your health much longer.. nak enjoy makanan untuk 3-4 tahun lagi then masuk hospital sebab penyakit banyak, atau nak jaga kesihatan sekarang dan enjoy makanan walaupun dah 50-60 tahun? hehe.. 

being FAT is your choice.. being FIT is also your choice.. :)

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